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Nothing good EVER comes after that statement. 

Trust me, it's actually a cosmic rule.

It's right up there with the one day you decide to wash your car and it rains the moment you come out of the car wash.

That being said, the statement "we need to talk" usually leads to an uncomfortable moment. It becomes awkward mainly because you're going to hear something you don't really want to hear.  And really, who hasn't been there? When the person in front of you says "we need to talk." several things happen. Your heart starts to race, you roll your eyes or you start fidgeting around, looking everywhere but at that person. I've actually had an experience where someone was having a "talk" with me and my eyes were so focused on my phone (hoping somebody, anybody would call..) that the person actually stopped talking to stare at my phone as well. But of course it didn't ring. Just my luck, it was on silent. Sigh.

But what happens when YOU are the one who needs to talk? I don't think people realize it, but it's actually the "speaker" who's really at his/her wit's end when it's time for the conversation. No one wants to bear bad news, not unless they are villains of a movie and even then they use their minions to do their dirty work. I know it might be hard to believe, but in reality, the one who needs to "talk" really wants to end the conversation before it even begins.

Whether it's breaking someone's heart, nagging them for the thousandth time, or just simply setting a friend straight from a crooked path.. (there are actually a million "we need to talk" topics..) each talk is awkward and painful for BOTH the receiver and the giver. 

So the next time someone says the horrid "we need to talk" line to you, don't just escape to another universe but actually listen in. You might learn a thing or two. If not about you (and your flaws..) hah! then definitely something about the speaker. And who knows? Maybe you can charm yourself back into their good graces or better yet, discover an annoying habit of theirs to fire back with. *smirk*

I've learned that it's always good to put yourself in the other person's shoes..no matter how difficult.  

 

Even if it's just for a moment.. :)