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Singlehood is often viewed as a type of social disability. What people fail to realize is that singlehood is not something to be ashamed of. In fact, if viewed from the right perspective, it can be extremely liberating. As Christians, we should focus on what’s good about our season of “singleness.”
Here are some benefits from being single...
Five Benefits of Being Single:
“You” Time
Because of the lack of commitment to another person, there is more time
for you. There is a world of things to do out there, such as traveling.
No one can stop you.
Saving Money
Love is expensive. Being in a relationship, especially for guys, is
costly. Singlehood allows the money that would be spent on gifts and
dinner to be put back into your own pocket.
Meeting New People
Singlehood allows you to go out there and be friends with the opposite
sex without feeling guilty.
Only Worry about Your Own Schedule
You no longer have to schedule your life so that it’s
compatible with that of your partner.
Heart Completely for God
Instead of constantly thinking about your boyfriend/girlfriend, you can
think about God. There’s more time for Him because your heart
belongs to no one but Him.
Infatuation is powerful and can often consume the thoughts, mind, and
soul of a person. And at an age where marriage frankly isn’t
an option yet, a relationship can be suffocating. The bible warns us,
“I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that ye stir not up,
nor awake my love, until he pleases” (Song of Solomon 8:4).
Relationships require mental commitments and offer physical
temptations. Mentally, the person you’re “in love
with” is constantly on your mind. Your actions seek to
please, and your mind puts him/her as a priority. Physically, a
relationship is a strong temptation of the flesh. There is a temptation
to give into the desires of the flesh- to hold his/her hand, to lean in
for the first kiss” (Romans 12:1-2). Yet despite the fact
that most Christians are aware of these temptations, these warnings are
often disregarded due to the [temporary] rewards and pleasurable
feelings dating elicits. The Bible overtly warns, “Therefore,
I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your
bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is
your spiritual act of worship” (Romans 12:1).
Singlehood has its rewards- purity. Think of yourself as a cake-
decorated, sweet, and valuable. Every time you give your heart to
someone, a piece of that cake is given away. A piece of that cake is
consumed; a piece of you is given away forever.
Imagine yourself at the altar, staring at your spouse to be. The
“I do’s” are uttered, the rings are
exchanged. You’re ready to give all that you have to him/her.
But you have only one piece left for your lifelong partner. Throughout
your life, you have recklessly given away piece after piece to fulfill
loneliness, to relieve yourself of utter boredom, to fulfill the lust
of the flesh. You have held a dozen of hands, kissed other
people’s future spouses, and poured out your heart to people
who eventually broke your heart. Very rarely can one stand at the altar
and firmly say that their heart has been untainted. And very rarely can
one say at that moment that they do not regret their past flings.
This type of purity is difficult, some may say even impossible to
maintain but Apostle Paul encourages us to ““Flee
the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and
peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure
heart” (2 Timothy 2:22).
Being single is not a disability. It’s joyful, it’s
fruitful, it’s liberating. It has its rewards, and a
determination to remain single until the “right
time” will truly produce a true happily ever after.
For more relationship advice about being a Christian single, check out
http://www.christianitytoday.com/tcw/comments/allreviews.html?id=45273
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